I am reading "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People"

Like the title of this blog post says, I am reading "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People," by Stephen R. Covey. I highly recommend this book even if you are a proactive person, it is good to know the formula to smooth out your rough corners. The first chapter talked about paradigm shifts.

Paradigm shifts are drastic changes in methodology and practice. The book touched on how the way we think effects the way we see and feel about things. There is an example in the book where the author is on a bus and everything is peaceful and calm untill a man and his child get on the bus. The kid is making a racket and disturbing everyone, and the father is doing nothing about it. When the author couldn't stand it anymore he told the father to do something about the kid. The father tells the author that he is sorry, that his wife just died and they are coming back from the hospital. The author had a paradigm shift and now he understands why the kid is acting like that and has compasion for the father and kid.

So, when you feel agitated by someones mean act towards you or foul attitutde, try to imagine a possible excuse for the other person. What this will do is give the other person a chance to redeem him/herself, instead of having you labeling the person as an "asshole" and letting the person get under your skin. Because there can be a chance that the person experiencing a miss comunication, which is where most problems arrive from.

A weak person let's the action's and words of other people affect how they feel emotionally inside. The way towards becoming a stronger a person is to change the way you think, to perform a paradigm shift. If we stick to our strong ideals we will perform our priorities with a purpose that will not be dilluted by other people because we will not be influenced by negativity. Set your goal, find out what you have to do to accomplish this goal, and then execute the task in the order you determined to be most effective. It's the same as climbing up stairs, one step at a time and you will reach the top (your goal).